The S.H.I.T.T.S Podcast
The S.H.I.T.T.S Podcast
Laughter and Lessons in the Pursuit of Genuine Connections
Ever found yourself pondering the true essence of a fulfilling day? This week, I had the delight of hosting the dynamic duo of B Karrington and Liz Toussaint, who light up our studio with conversations that probe the depths of self-improvement and the art of living authentically. Picture this: you're crafting the roadmap to your ideal life, all while laughing and connecting with these spirited souls. B's infectious laughter pairs with Liz's transformative insights as they both share their unique perspectives on creating a life that resonates with who you truly are.
Navigating life's labyrinth can be a solitary journey, but it doesn't have to be. Imagine swapping stories that unearth the importance of self-discovery, all while understanding the innate power of your own heartbeat. In a candid exchange, we tackle the beautiful complexities of raising children, maintaining genuine relationships, and the often overlooked art of sharing personal fantasies with partners. It's an intimate dive into the realities that shape us, with the wisdom and wit of my guests guiding us through each thoughtful turn.
As if we're sitting on a porch reminiscing, we drift into a conversation about the golden days of radio and the communal joys it brought into our lives. The nostalgia is palpable, yet we're not just stuck in the past—we're learning from it, laughing about the quirky missteps along the way. Rounding off with the lighthearted yet profound mantra "Niggas need naps," we conjure up the importance of rest and the sheer bliss of disconnecting. Join us for a journey that's as much about reflection as it is about forging ahead, carrying the torch of passion, community, and above all, staying true to the core of who we are.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. We are now back at the shit's podcast with either shooting shit, starting some shit or picking up a shit left off. I'm your host, my son Stobato, coolest Cashew Herd, that's five Yo, and this week on the podcast is very always tell you, we got very special guests to the podcast, and this week it is no exception. Only thing about this week is we got two very special guests to the podcast. One of them is someone who has been here before and the other one is somebody that literally met today. Real shit, like fucking awesome. You know what I'm saying. So, with no further ado, I want y'all to give a huge round of applause for content creator extraordinaire B Carrington.
Speaker 2:All right Hang on.
Speaker 1:And the one, the only repeat offender. One only lives to sunshine.
Speaker 4:I didn't get like a bird in front of my introduction.
Speaker 1:Hold on. Let me finish, okay, all right, so I would say this so the reason why I had to break it down like that like I said, I literally just met B Carrington today and she has awesome energy to it From what I've seen so far. When it comes down to Liz to sign, I got to say this From what I've known, you have always had an awesome aura to you. I have watched you evolve from not just a performer but also to a radio personality and also an author and also a manager. You know what I'm saying. So you got a lot of shit going on. So that's why I said this is a really dope episode today, because we mix not mixing it up, but it's not energy going on there.
Speaker 2:You know what?
Speaker 3:I'm saying yeah.
Speaker 1:So before I go any further though I have a lot of energy I have to say this much Y'all make sure you all check out the ownership club every Sunday, 9 pm to 11 pm. Also one of 6.3 fm. Well, you can not only see myself, but you can also see Liz to sign. And after that, after you get done checking out the ownership club on, so one of 6.3 fm have head over to the Hatterway at 1245 Burnham Avenue in Cayman City, illinois. Get your drink on, get your dance on.
Speaker 3:I feel the shit too.
Speaker 1:They got vendors. They be selling all types of shit and far more adults out there is doing the dope things. Y'all make sure you all check out Club Effemence that's at iceloungenet. And that's all I'm saying about that, because, yeah, that's all you need to know. Just check out the internet or the website, whatever. So this week, v Carrington.
Speaker 1:Yes you are our co-host today, so you got put in a position today. You are the co-host today and Liz to sign you have a special guest, so we like to do a check in. So B how you week been.
Speaker 5:My week has been great. I've just been at home with my baby girl.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 5:Enjoying the holidays with my family when you from. I'm from Memphis.
Speaker 1:I had to put it out there, big Memphis, big Memphis, big Memphis Put a big M on that.
Speaker 5:Yeah, big M Okay.
Speaker 1:Okay, liz, how you week been.
Speaker 4:That is a loaded question. Why, I mean, do we really will? Okay, you asked. So I have been practicing what I preach this week.
Speaker 1:Oh, let us know.
Speaker 4:So this week I started my book that I wrote. It's called who Do you Think you Are, and I wrote this based off of the tactics that I used to get through some of the hardest times in my life.
Speaker 1:So when you?
Speaker 3:And it definitely applies now, right, uh-huh.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 4:So when you are ending something to become something else, you grieve the person that you were, and so we think that when we are struggling, when we're going through the growth spurt, that life is just hard and all this other stuff. But the truth is, life has always been hard. Life has always done what it's doing, right, right. But now life is doing what it's doing while you are transforming.
Speaker 2:Okay.
Speaker 4:And so I had to create like systems to hack myself so that I wouldn't break.
Speaker 1:And what system did you create?
Speaker 4:So all those systems are in this book, awesome. So the book is a workbook. It's a vision board workbook, okay, and so it starts with getting you clear about what the vision is that you have for yourself. Okay, right. And then, once you're clear about that, then I break it down even further and ask you specific questions about specific experiences, so that you can identify how you want to feel.
Speaker 1:I'm glad you said that because I was reading a book and the part it was a part in a book that was kind of challenging for me when it was saying vision what you're eating, like the day of, like the day, vision of day in your life that everything is going well for you and it's just, everything is clicking. You know I started doing that, right, you know what I'm saying. Then it was like well, now, vision what you're eating, right, you know what I'm saying. Vision what you're eating for breakfast, right, vision what you're eating for lunch. Vision what you're eating for dinner.
Speaker 1:And I'm like damn, I'm like all of it is bad shit. You know, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
Speaker 4:So my book does the same thing. However, my book is asking you it's the best day, right? Yeah, yeah, I'm talking about your book.
Speaker 1:Yeah, oh.
Speaker 4:Yeah.
Speaker 3:I'm talking about your book Right now.
Speaker 4:So, if it's your best day, then, and you're showing up as the person that you're desiring to be. Honestly, though, what does? That person eat. What does that person eat?
Speaker 1:And that's what I said. For me it's like a bunch of bad shit.
Speaker 4:But why Just be honest, like a chicken. Think about no, but think about the person, who the person is, and I'm going to just talk about my person.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 4:My person has a really fit, healthy body that she's proud of.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 4:So on her favorite day, she's eating something that is of high quality, because she's feeding herself things that's support the person that she's becoming.
Speaker 1:Got it.
Speaker 4:Because, at the end of the day, everything is about self love, right? So once you've identified who the person is that you would like to become, then you start loving yourself into that person. So this book will walk you through your own thoughts about yourself and then, based on what you know about yourself, you know how to soothe yourself when you're having moments.
Speaker 3:Right.
Speaker 4:So at the beginning of this week my father went into the hospital. Sorry about that it was rough and at the same time I started my book. The same day I wrote, I did the first exercise in my book and my father went into the hospital hour later.
Speaker 3:Wow.
Speaker 4:So now I have a clear understanding of who it is that I am becoming Not right, cause I'm not in one anymore. I've put the shoes on Right, so I'm learning to walk in these shoes, and so now I have to practice the, the, my keynote, which is called embrace the twist, because life is twisted anyway. You got on the roller coaster you know what I'm saying when you came through your mother onto this ride. You own this roller coaster, so you're feeling every time the earth shifts. You feel every time the moon comes. You're feeling all of it, whether you know it or not. And so when life shifts on you, right, you're sitting there, scared cause you don't know what's in the future. So you do all of, whatever your control mechanisms are that you created when you were five, the first time that you got scared, right. And so now you're responding to life like a child, because that's the way you've learned to protect yourself your whole life.
Speaker 1:It's responding like a child.
Speaker 4:So if you had an experience at five, the first time that you had that experience, you didn't know how to react to it. True Cause, you didn't. You never had it before.
Speaker 1:I'm not about it, yeah.
Speaker 4:But after it was over, you said to yourself the next time that happens. I know.
Speaker 1:I'm responding to it.
Speaker 4:I know how I'm going to respond to it. And then it never happens again. And then you're 35 and something happens that creates an experience that reminds you of it, and so the response that you automatically give is the one the five year old wrote.
Speaker 1:Got it. Hey, we got to take a break real quick. Hey, oh, shut up. Tell everybody out there that's grown and she'll be still acting like five years and pissing on itself. It's just podcast man, we'll be back. It's the shits.
Speaker 6:Right. And what is it? It's all about the shits. Either you the shit or you not. And when you the shit, you got the ism, you got the realism, whatever other words you want to use, and you put ism on you. The shit of that, all right.
Speaker 1:We're in our back for the shits podcast and we are chilling with the phenomenal list to sign and be Carrington and my girl. This is telling us about the book who do you think you are so speaking of? Who do you think you are, be Carrington? Who do you think you are?
Speaker 5:You know, I think I've started my life. I've started my life over several times like I'm 40. Okay, Okay. So right now, like I'm a content creator, right, and I've heard from 20 year olds like you're a 40 and you're a content creator, you know, and now it's like okay, I started feeling like I'm too old for that, but then I started feeling like 40 is not old. You know, you're not, you're not done with life.
Speaker 3:I know you've done this before.
Speaker 5:You're not done with life until you're actually, you know, done with it. You're not done with life until life is over. So, you know, right now I'm a content creator, I'm a wife, a mother. You know, I'm just trying to find myself over again, especially after losing my mom. So I'm just really just trying to find myself over again, really.
Speaker 1:Okay, liz, in your book, I believe, it does talk about self discovery, right, okay. So what do you think is the scariest thing about self discovery?
Speaker 4:It's the hardest thing.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 4:Which is telling yourself the truth.
Speaker 1:Hmm, See so some people may say the truth is relative right?
Speaker 4:No, it's not.
Speaker 1:Okay, elaborate.
Speaker 4:So I don't think people understand what the truth truly is. The truth is that feeling that you feel in the middle of your heart, that you don't say out loud. Hmm. That thing that you, that thing in your heart. If you will allow your heart to speak, it's mind. Okay, that's the truth.
Speaker 1:Damn. That really makes me think like when was the last time I heard that?
Speaker 4:Right, because we don't have conversations with our hearts.
Speaker 1:What do we have conversations with?
Speaker 4:Social media and.
Speaker 5:I was going to say she right though she's right.
Speaker 4:We're having conversations with social media, our insecurities, our limiting beliefs and our dreams. Oh shit, we are not having conversations with our heart, and so we're out here. It's basically like a room of low level executives having an argument about what we should do next and nobody's talk to the visionary. Damn, because you don't know the vision. The person, the entity that knows the vision is your heart. Think about it. The first signal that you sent out into the world that you was coming was your heartbeat. God damn it. That's your beat. Each one of us have our own specific beat. Now I read energy. I don't usually tell people that, but I can read. Why not?
Speaker 1:though, why don't you tell people that?
Speaker 4:Because before I was a coach.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 4:People want to know from psychics. I don't identify as one, but I read energy.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 4:So I just happen to be accurate a lot. Let me just say Okay, so most people want to know the answer to their superficial question.
Speaker 1:The resident, the resident.
Speaker 5:Because that's me. I'm very honest about who I am. Okay, being superficial in the past, I'm not going to lie. I would ask my sister is an empath, as they say, and I have been to a psychic before. My number one question was is my business going to take off? That's a superficial question.
Speaker 4:It's a superficial question but not really Right. So here's where my issue is. When they ask a superficial question and they want, so it is kind of superficial because it's not, but it for a person who's doing healing work like me. I'm looking at your question and trying to figure out what the root of the question is, because that's where the answer is Right.
Speaker 4:But some people don't want that, they just want you to tell them if they business is going to do, okay, and then they just gone on their merry way. And that was me, right, and I don't want to sit with them. I don't because I've done so much work to get to a place where I feel comfortable in my body. When I see other people who are gifted that are not ready, I need to give my energy to the ones that are ready, right, and so I was like I'll become a coach, because then if you come to me, you know I'm going to coach you. You're not looking for me to give you the answer, you're okay with me guiding you to yourself.
Speaker 1:How can you, how can you tell somebody's ready?
Speaker 4:Because they will do the work Like I know. I've worked with a lot of people and I know when I'm looking at somebody who's ready, because I don't have to call them. When you ready, you will walk in, you will walk in the door. I'm not knocking on the doors, I'm not. I'm not trying to convince nobody to think like me, everybody's having their own individual experience. You come across the thing that that is working for you at that time.
Speaker 3:Perfect timing.
Speaker 4:It's always perfect timing for you, right? And if we allow everyone to have their own individual perfect timing experiences, when it is time for them to be in your space, they just will appear. And it's just the truth, because look at us, like you and I appeared in each other's lives After 20 some odd years, in a very meaningful way.
Speaker 1:It's like I can hit a violence plan in the background. Why are you saying that? Go ahead though.
Speaker 4:Like for real, me and my son used to be at the cotton club back in the day, like when everybody was there you know what I'm saying and it was just like he was cool. I was cool. We never, I never think I, I don't think I had your phone number.
Speaker 1:And not at all.
Speaker 4:But I to right now. You asked me earlier when did we relink, and I don't know.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I didn't know when it was I don't know. It just happened.
Speaker 4:It just happened, and then we just stayed in each other's atmosphere. See that Right and that's those.
Speaker 1:Those are the relationships.
Speaker 4:Those are the relationships that I love, though, if you can like, the best relationship is the one where one person is orbiting their atmosphere, you're orbiting yours, and then you just happen to be in the same space. There's no effort needed. There's no. You should have done this and this is how that should have looked, and you should have showed up for me and blah blah blah. We're showing up for ourselves, and because we're showing up for ourselves, we're showing up in the same spaces, because we're going in the same direction without pulling each other.
Speaker 1:That's awesome. That's interesting and awesome at the same time. And in your book you wrote human swimming energy, Just as fish swimming water. Elaborate on it.
Speaker 4:So Do you think what that? Do you think fish know?
Speaker 1:the water.
Speaker 4:Yeah, you do, I think so I mean like so if fish know that they swimming water, then they're smarter than us, because I genuinely don't know that fish know that they swim water.
Speaker 5:It is my assumption that they don't, because we swim in energy, just like they swim in water and I think we know I know so many people that don't know Cuz I can walk in a room and I can walk right back out there room because when I walk in that room I could feel that energy from the door, like soon as I get ready to knock on the door or ring that door. But I can feel that energy, I can look around that door.
Speaker 4:You can, okay, but is everybody aware of themselves and their nervous system? So that's what it is right. It's our nervous system that's allowing us to feel. I actually call it the Trinity. It's your nervous system, it's your heart and it's your brain, and so your nervous system is feeling the energy around you and your heart is responding to whether or not your brain should be aware that there's a problem.
Speaker 1:So to piggyback off what be just said and what you just said and some and In some psychology books, some people will call that being in tune, yeah, so you said like you can, you can, you can, you can notice that energy. Yes because you can feel it like within yourself.
Speaker 5:I can feel it within my myself and I can feel it through. You know anything Before I answer a phone call. It's just anything. Even if I'm talking you on the phone, I can feel your energy through the phone. It's just. It's something that I didn't have back then and I wasn't in tune with myself. But now I'm very in tune with myself, so I can really just feel things, feel, I feel everything.
Speaker 1:Yo, we got to get a break real quick. I mean, shut up, take everybody out there, that's uh Can feel energy through the phone because you calling off a prime couple. This is podcast master.
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Speaker 1:Yo, we're not back and it's just podcast and, like I said y'all, it's awesome night. It's a lot of energy in this one fucking man. We're swimming in a whole bunch of real talk, like you had to turn on like the green lights it's green lights in the know, I'm saying to really know what we swimming in. So, yes, you got the book. What can they, what can they find a book?
Speaker 4:So the book is available online everywhere Amazon, thrift books, barns and noble you can just Google it and like whatever you got coloring pages in there to have coloring pages hey y'all real talk.
Speaker 1:I was reading the book. I was reading the book off my phone so I really couldn't do the coloring pages, like it's right there. But I thought about like damn, I wish I had like the book in front of me, cuz I can color, I like the color. You know I'm saying I like to make me slow.
Speaker 4:So I put the coloring page in because I know for me, when I have a hard time clearing my head, I paint. So I was like if somebody is doing what I did, because the book is what I did, so if somebody is doing what I did, then when they get here they probably need a minute. But if you give me a minute and you don't focus my minute, I'm not gonna come back to that part of the book.
Speaker 4:Okay so I was like, let me stop and put a coloring page here, because that's what I did while I was writing the book when I got Stunted, I colored okay and when I was done, while I was coloring, all of the information was coming. Yeah cuz, it's like meditation.
Speaker 1:Yeah, um what's your? Favorite color I.
Speaker 4:Know you're gonna ask me that. And I practice my answer.
Speaker 1:No, we don't practice answers.
Speaker 4:Because whenever I have a permission, I always call myself preparing right, so I practice an answer. Do you know that? I don't remember what it was, cuz I didn't believe that you was gonna actually ask me that this is a lesson in when spirit tell you to do something. You do it because if I'd have done what I was told, I would have a great answer for that, but I didn't. However, I my favorite color right now is a deep teal color.
Speaker 4:That's how beautiful it is like it's actually my ceiling and and it is. It's like I don't know. It feels navy but it feels green. Yeah it doesn't feel dark, but it feels warm. You know I'm saying it's hard to describe, but it really feels good to me. So in the book I do ask that question. I think I think I have a question about color. No, it's my course. I do have a course that goes to the book and in the course we deal with color Because I have. The color makes you feel.
Speaker 1:Why are colors important?
Speaker 4:Well colors. You are asking some really esoteric questions, Okay.
Speaker 1:I'm not look that word up in it too.
Speaker 4:So one day, during a meditation, I Was taught that colors are Connected to different energies.
Speaker 1:Okay, and so let's take red for instance, that's a.
Speaker 4:that's the first color I was thinking about was red it was, I saw it so this is scary. So the color red Represents? When you see it, it represents caution, yeah heat, yeah excitement. Final notice fear, right, it's hot. So when you see red, you're getting all of those associations.
Speaker 3:From the energy of that color.
Speaker 4:Okay, so when someone is trying to Communicate something to you with a color, you'll get it's bold, it's out. You know, I'm saying, and the the feeling that the color red is attached to is fear Mmm-hmm, because isn't fear hot?
Speaker 1:No disrespect to the blood, just saying we don't want no problems.
Speaker 4:I mean, but maybe the bloods feel like they are projecting fear.
Speaker 5:And they are to be into other people.
Speaker 4:They are to be feared.
Speaker 1:So what are the creeps projecting?
Speaker 4:So blue Is representative? Why?
Speaker 3:am I.
Speaker 4:Gang colors. This is not what I came here for and. I was about to do it too, but I'm not gonna do that?
Speaker 5:What do you think about black?
Speaker 4:The color black is the absence of color because that's my, that's your favorite color black yes, my, I painted my living room wall X and wall black.
Speaker 5:Everything in my house is black and white.
Speaker 4:So black to me represents and you'll, you'll notice that in anything I say, I'm gonna say something positive. Even if I say something negative, I'm gonna end it with something positive because all everything is positive. But black is void of color. You know, I'm saying and what happens when we are void of color? When you put something in the ground, it, it becomes void of light. I guess that's what I should have said black is void of light.
Speaker 4:Right and actually my daddy just said this to me. What was it? My dad? No, it was my friend. I might have been my dad, I don't know. They remind me of each other. So you Can see, you can't see light in the darkness unless there's light behind it.
Speaker 3:Right, it's something like that.
Speaker 4:You can't see, you can't see behind a dark curtain unless there's light behind it, right, unless there's something behind it. I don't remember.
Speaker 1:Let me, that's just a last-minute person behind it oh, oh. Wrong.
Speaker 4:I'm saying wrong edit all of this out, but what I got from that is in darkness. Darkness has value. To give light a stage. Okay, you know I'm saying, and when light shows up it creates moisture because of the heat and then growth. So black to me is essential.
Speaker 1:Y'all heard that.
Speaker 4:Black is essential. It truly is cuz. It outlines everything.
Speaker 1:What has and I'm. This question actually is to both of y'all what has been the most Beautiful thing you have learned about yourself?
Speaker 5:That I can change, and what I mean by that is before getting into my relationship and getting married and everything, I was a very violent person Me too, Very violent very.
Speaker 1:She looked me right in the face when she said that shit to us. She was like I was a very violent person.
Speaker 5:Me too Very violent, very angry, very aggressive, very, just everything. I didn't think I could be a soft. You know, If you made me mad, I can say, okay, you know, and keep it moving. It used to be like you do something to me, I'm gonna do something to you, wow. And now I realize, no, you can change, you don't have to be that way. And I do thank my husband in part for that, because he always said if you put your hands in the front door, but he did right, that was a, that was nothing to make me mad.
Speaker 4:That's a good man.
Speaker 1:Let you know.
Speaker 5:That's a good man and therapy helped, okay, okay, and that's what I learned about myself. Like the beautiful part, like you can change and you don't even have to be that person, you don't even have to recognize that person you used to be, just lead that person where it was, at where they were, and change. You are new. There you go, you started new. You are new. You are somebody totally different.
Speaker 1:What about you, Liz? Huh, that's the most beautiful thing you have learned about yourself. You have discovered about yourself.
Speaker 4:So today I don't know what I was doing or reading when I had this epiphany, but I realized that in trying to raise my children different than I was raised, I have created a process that allows them to grow and requires me to grow.
Speaker 1:Alibor.
Speaker 4:So when you have little children, you do everything for them.
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 4:And then they get to a certain age and you're in the habit of still doing everything for them.
Speaker 4:And then they get to a certain age where they should be doing things for themselves and they need all of the instruction in the world. With my children, I let them go in stages and when I let them go I had to let go of parts of myself that was caring for that child. That child is not that child anymore, so I have to become a different mother for this child Every year. My children changed and I had to change with them.
Speaker 1:That's the stressful part of it. Well, yeah, I'm glad you said that. I'm sorry to cut you off. No, no worries, I was just talking to my wife about that and I was like man. Having kids it's a beautiful thing. It also can be stressful, because you want the best form, so you're so overprotective of them, not just physically but emotionally and mentally.
Speaker 1:You don't want them to be hurt but, you got to understand that sometimes they have to because they have to learn. You know what I'm saying. And then you just said that they change. So the thing that you was doing with them a year ago that you thought was awesome, they feel like I don't like doing that shit no more. You know what I'm saying. Hey, yo, we gotta take a break real quick. And man shout out to all the kids out there that like doing stuff like last shit, but don't like doing them all. I'm really talking about my kids y'all. This is just podcast. This is the shit.
Speaker 2:This comedian, Marnie Peake, checking in from the shit's podcast.
Speaker 1:We're now back at the shit's podcast and we have two awesome guests my girl, liz Dussant B Carrington, and we have just been talking about energy kids wanting to hurt motherfuckers. We're just going all over the place for this shit. So this question I'm throwing out there and I prepare yourself for it. So you said you're married, you have a special someone, right? Okay, all right, at what phase in a relationship do you think it is wise for couples to honestly discuss fantasies?
Speaker 5:My husband's over there. Well, I was always shy, you know and. I think he was shy as well, but we are on year six okay. Congratulations and we just start thanking. We just started discussing this and I'm talking about, like a deep guy me covering my face because I was scared of his response. You know, so it was kind of like oh my God, am I telling you how much you know? And him rubbing my back as if you know I just told him something detrimental, because he was like you know what he's okay.
Speaker 1:It's okay, we dream about Dolla Mite. Go ahead though.
Speaker 5:You know so I don't know. I feel like, whenever you are, I feel comfortable, because some people feel comfortable with each other within you know, five or six months.
Speaker 1:You know talking about those things you know about that shit. I'm about you, Liz.
Speaker 2:Can you repeat the question?
Speaker 1:At what phase in a relationship do you think it is wise for a couple to honestly discuss fantasies?
Speaker 4:Wise for a couple.
Speaker 1:Yeah, meaning like Honestly.
Speaker 4:No, no, no, because I'm thinking about the word wise, as if.
Speaker 1:You don't wanna fuck up the relationship.
Speaker 4:Heard. Okay, so you don't wanna fuck up the relationship.
Speaker 1:You don't want them thinking that aw this motherfucker like fuck motherfuckers.
Speaker 4:So my thing is is I think it's in the door. Really yeah, because think about it. If you can't be who you totally are with your person. You need to make a decision about whether or not you wanna be in that relationship quickly, Because you be with somebody for a long time and then you're like, okay, I'm two years in. I'm gonna go ahead and tell him about this thing that I like to do. You know what I'm saying and then he look at you like what? And now you can't be who you are.
Speaker 4:Like peeing on turtles. You can't be who you are in your relationship. And now you feel a way about yourself because your biggest fear came true. And now you with this person, cause you do love them and you spent this time with them. You invested this much life with this person. You wanna stay with them, but now I can't be this part of me with you. You know, then, what happens, what.
Speaker 5:Pew.
Speaker 1:Oh, his stuff go down.
Speaker 5:The relationship goes down. The relationship goes down.
Speaker 1:Oh, my bad, I read that wrong, my fault.
Speaker 5:The relationship goes down.
Speaker 4:Because I said what my bad. I was saying yeah, the relationship takes a toll Because now you were holding that back right and now that you let it out it's not invited into your relationship. Right, can't do it, so now you got a part of yourself that has to sit outside of your relationship and not get cared for. If you care about the relationship, you can't even talk about it, you can't talk about it, you can't go get it from nobody else, damn.
Speaker 5:Or you could go get it from somebody else, but then that'll be deemed cheating.
Speaker 4:And then you would be rocking the relationship.
Speaker 5:Right, and so that's the relationship going downhill, damn.
Speaker 1:All right, that was very informative, very informative. So for everybody out there, listen as soon as you meet somebody, come in the dope. Tell them you like gangbanks. That's your thing. That's your thing. That's your thing. Tell them in the dope.
Speaker 4:I'm into this, are you into that?
Speaker 1:By the way, my name is such and such, so I wanted to talk about your transition into radio because I think that's awesome. Thank you, what did you ever see that?
Speaker 4:No, no, I didn't see radio, and so this is the interesting thing about my book, and I know I keep talking about it.
Speaker 3:No, as you should.
Speaker 4:But the interesting thing about my book who Do you Think you Are? It's not really about you knowing the answer, it's about you finding out, Mm, Because you need me to say that again. Say it again so the book who Do you Think you Are is not so much about you knowing the answer, but you finding out, because I found out you, who I was in this process right. And who you think you are is usually attached to what you do. Yep. And so. I'm a janitor.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I'm a pilot. Exactly, I was a singer.
Speaker 4:I was a singer and I was unfulfilled in my body, but I knew that music was what I wanted to do. Right, here's what I didn't realize and what I found out doing this book is that I did music because it made me feel better. I didn't do music because I wanted to be where Beyonce is, because that kind of is scary. You know what I'm saying I wanted to do. I did music because it was therapy for me. I did country music because country music was structured in a way where they acknowledged the problem, but by the time you got to the end of the song, they gave you the answer.
Speaker 1:Right. And so in my 20s.
Speaker 4:In my 20s I was listening to country music on 65th Endowment Gunshots in the background, sirens just all the time, and I would just turn the country music up and listen to the answers in the songs. And then I started patterning my life around those stories. That was complete fiction for me, but I was able to create my life based on a life I had never seen before.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 4:Through country.
Speaker 1:Just blocking out all the gunshots and the GDs.
Speaker 4:Absolutely Uh-huh yeah From country music.
Speaker 1:Damn. I mean you got a beautiful story, Thank you Real talk.
Speaker 4:I appreciate that.
Speaker 1:Um, were there any radio personalities that you felt like? You took a page out of their book, you kind of took part to them and you added to what you do.
Speaker 4:No, my radio life is completely random.
Speaker 4:And I know I just went on a tangent and didn't get to the point, but I said all of that to say that because I wanted to be a singer, so bad. Nothing else was on my radar. Okay, so when I started using my book, my book started putting me in places I wouldn't have otherwise been based on, where I feel good, right, and so I started only doing the things that felt good to me. I started letting my heart tell me what to do. I let my nervous system tell me what was going on around me. I let my brain think of the things and receive the messages, but I did what my heart said to do.
Speaker 1:So Because that's what the truth is.
Speaker 4:Because that's what the truth is. So if I was telling myself the truth and showing up truthfully as who I am, then it looked like me having a residency at Tavern on the Grange with my daughter's father for three years, and we did that with the honesty in our hearts you know what I'm saying and it worked right. And then it looked like us doing a podcast and everything that I did I had no background in and I had no-.
Speaker 1:I had no- but you did it well though.
Speaker 4:Thank you, but I didn't have nothing behind it, it was just we were just living. And then in me just living, I found out who I was and I found out that I like to talk. And then and then and this here comes the manifestation part right, cause after you do all of this work, you're all, you're doing it all because you're trying to manifest the experience right. The manifestation part comes when I get a random phone call telling me to come audition for a radio show that I did not even realize was a radio show. I thought it was a podcast.
Speaker 3:Wow, wow.
Speaker 4:And then I get a phone call from him telling me congratulations you on 106. And I was like what?
Speaker 2:Wow Cause.
Speaker 4:I get an interview you did that was for so 106. And we on Sunday I was like what? So? No, I don't have no strategy for something that I had. That was God given to me. I'm doing what God says Every single day. That's my strategy.
Speaker 1:But it's from the heart though.
Speaker 4:So it didn't come from no other radio personalities.
Speaker 1:That's dope.
Speaker 4:Like I literally just show up as myself every day and do whatever God says that I'm supposed to do.
Speaker 1:So this question applies to both of you, all your opinions. What do you think makes a great radio show?
Speaker 5:For me, it has to be interesting, it has to be honest. Those are my two. To me, those are my two major. That's what makes me listen to radio. And I don't just listen to the music, I listen to them talk. So I want to hear the honesty. I don't want you to just go with what you think everyone wants to hear. I want your honest opinion. I want you to tell me how you felt about it and make it interesting.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 5:Dumb. You know I don't want it to sound like a dry eyes commercial.
Speaker 2:A dry eyes commercial.
Speaker 5:Do you remember that? I don't.
Speaker 1:Okay, you gotta take a break real quick. Hey, yo shout out to all the motherfuckers out there that don't remember the dry eyes commercials. It's just me. It's the shit's podcast. It's the shit's.
Speaker 7:What up y'all? It's your boy Marsoons, the rock and the ownership club and it's shit's podcast. Just letting y'all know about the hottest after party going on every Sunday at the Hatterway, 1245 Burnham Avenue in Calumet City, Illinois. Every Sunday, 10 pm to 2 am. It's the shit.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, yeah. We're at now back at the shit's podcast and we ain't here just chopping it up. Shoot the shit. This one on Netflix, you just shoot the shit. And this question what do you think makes a great radio show?
Speaker 4:I think great music makes a great radio show.
Speaker 1:Mm.
Speaker 4:And then I think a fun time being heard makes a great radio show.
Speaker 1:Damn, which goes into the honesty part and interest part.
Speaker 5:Yeah.
Speaker 1:What do you think? What do you all, what do both of y'all think? Radio is lacking these days Music. It was quick.
Speaker 4:Well, it depends on the radio we talking about. Oh yeah, there's trips, so I agree on the radio stations that are pushing out the new music. I feel like we're not getting the feels Right On the radio stations that are nostalgic. I think we're probably missing some, some heart to heart type of.
Speaker 1:Bam. Yeah, I agree.
Speaker 4:Cause, like, if you're a nostalgic radio station, then every time period had a vibe right, and so to truly honor the vibe of that time and those people, then you would need to like really honor the music of that time and then honor the conversation that they're having right now.
Speaker 1:I agree, I agree both y'all. Well, you say that.
Speaker 5:I say music.
Speaker 1:I'm using a whole lot, I think it's missing music.
Speaker 5:I can say that now that's about 10, I kind of don't even really listen to the radio as much as I used to when I was younger. You know it was a. It was a thing to get in the car of my mom, and as we're going to the grocery store, you know we love turning it on.
Speaker 5:Well then, memphis 97.1, you know, so we would listen to that music and it would be a time, you know, we singing loud can't sing, you know. And now it's to the point where, as soon as I get in the car, I'm like, oh nope, turn this off, let's let me go ahead and put on my you know apple, you know anything you know. I don't even listen to. You know, back then it was more so you wanted to hear what they said. You know radio people back in the day were like celebrities, you know.
Speaker 3:Like they were, like celebrities.
Speaker 5:So it was just that, it was just a feel that they gave us the conversations you know and stuff like that.
Speaker 1:So I feel, that I feel that Going, I'm going flipping back to the book you hold it up again. That was your cue, that was that was keep it, hold it up, I'm missing my cue.
Speaker 4:It's okay, I give myself grace. There you go.
Speaker 1:What do you? What do you? Well, do you think it would have been a huge difference if you would have read that book, if this Tucson had read that book 10 years ago? If you think it would have been a huge difference in how?
Speaker 4:A hundred percent, it would have been a huge difference how? Because I would have had tools to allow me to move through certain stuff and enjoy the moment. Because I've had a lot of great times in my life, right, and while I was having those great times, I was also going through stuff.
Speaker 3:Okay.
Speaker 4:You know how, you know how that is right. You going through life, you still going to the club, you still hanging out with your friends.
Speaker 2:That's true.
Speaker 4:You still don't know if you're going to make it through tomorrow, but you still going to go kick it.
Speaker 5:Gas on E Gas on.
Speaker 4:E you still? You still you still doing all of the things. You know I was performing and I was a single mother of two.
Speaker 4:You know what I'm saying and so if I would have had this book, it would have absolutely allowed me the grace to give to myself that I was doing the best that I could at the time with what I had right and accepting who I was at the time, and then allowing myself to drop my shoulders in my jaw and breathe Because we all walking around, yes, like this. And soon as somebody says, drop your shoulders, you ain't even realized you had them up, go ahead, drop your shoulders.
Speaker 1:He's like he ain't talking to me, Like I call the police. That's awesome, that's awesome. I think that's that's an awesome answer because, Like, I always think people ask the question if you can go back in time and change something, what would you change? And I always just find people I say nothing because I feel like that's what got you where you at. You know what I'm saying and I believe that. I believe that you are where you're at for a reason. You know what I'm saying. The challenge and the beauty in all that is learning you know what I'm saying and once you learn it, it's like you have that aha moment, Like damn.
Speaker 5:Yeah.
Speaker 1:One of my colleagues told me about KIA. You know what I'm saying, like straight up. You know what I'm saying, so it's just, that's awesome. So what's next for Mr Sarkin?
Speaker 4:I'm gonna be honest, I don't know.
Speaker 1:I'm gonna read that book again.
Speaker 4:That's the thing is, is that me working through the book is just giving me the tools, like reminding me, because I've had to use several of the tools this week with my dad going into the hospital. It got real, so I had to go through my now. Mind you, I've done this book already. That's how I wrote the book. Yeah Right, so I know I already have my systems in place.
Speaker 4:When you go through the book. You're creating systems for yourself that you will then follow as you move through the world. My system's already in place, so I just had to read. You know there was something I haven't had to use in a long time, like there's one that I do with your sensory of smell. When I feel like I'm about to have an anxiety attack, then I go take a shower and I have a concoction of a specific smell that completely changes my energy. I know me, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1:What's the smell it?
Speaker 4:is. It's a combination and typically I smell like it because I spray myself with it, so that when I'm with myself, if I find myself having a panic attack, then I can just I thought you was about to hit one of these numbers.
Speaker 1:I was like oh no, no, I was just with a fat Amy no. I was a little.
Speaker 4:I'll go and smell my wrist.
Speaker 1:There you go.
Speaker 4:To calm myself down and all of us are going through stuff and I know I'm not the only person that's walking around trying to do great things while also having anxiety attacks.
Speaker 1:That's true.
Speaker 5:Yes, that's true, but I did want to ask you something, because I read that you used to do retreats Still do I still do retreats. I still do retreats. When is the next one?
Speaker 4:So the next one, because I am just doing what God says, right? I don't really have a schedule.
Speaker 3:If somebody wants a retreat for me.
Speaker 4:I will absolutely look at my calendar and make one available. It will have to be a minimum of 10 people because we have to get the location and the food and get the books, because we do work the book in the retreat and I just go around and watch, just coach people through stuff, people share things, we move through stuff and at the end of the day it's a day of rest Cause you get to come and just let it all go and just be yourself.
Speaker 4:I had a person came, a good friend of mine, she slept through the most of it and she looked at me and I looked at her and she saw me see her sleep and she was like, because she knows that I know that having the ability to lay down and go to sleep and nobody asks you for nothing and nobody need nothing from you, ain't nobody gonna tell you why you sleeping in here and not doing the work she know that, in the space with me, whatever it is that you need right now, you got that. And if laying down and nobody asking me for nothing is something that I can offer to somebody, then that's what I wanna do.
Speaker 5:We're gonna have to get their retreat together.
Speaker 4:Yeah, cause a retreat is really about the individual. It's about what the individual actually needs in that moment, and so, if me, creating a space for women to get together and, as you figure, out what you need, we allow you to be whatever that is within reason.
Speaker 1:Niggas need naps.
Speaker 4:Yeah.
Speaker 3:Straight up. That's a Niggas need naps, that's your retreat.
Speaker 1:Niggas need naps got that.
Speaker 4:Straight up. I wouldn't mind doing a niggas naps retreat.
Speaker 1:Niggas need naps straight up. Niggas need naps. Foco Diddy said niggas need naps. Amen, we're gonna take a break real quick and we're gonna come right back and we're gonna play this game. Shout out to all the motherfuckers out there man, it's going to retreats and falling asleep and getting left with the retreat. You ain't getting your money back. The positive not your phone, it's just podcasts. It's the shits.
Speaker 3:What up, ladies and gentlemen? It's the Milk and Dream, the milk and night milk, and the heartbreak is Young Barker. And when I come to Chicago I check in. I get on the radio with the shits podcast. One more time man Give a big shout out to the shits podcast, young Barker Productions. Man Hollis, we out here.
Speaker 1:We got another bag and it's just podcasts and niggas need naps Straight up. I'm gonna keep saying it because it needs.
Speaker 4:You should throw that retreat. I will help you do it.
Speaker 1:No, you talking. You said something about the retreat. I just said I'm coming, god damn it, straight up. I don't want to steal your thunder. I think it's an awesome idea. Right up there with niggas need naps, all right, so we're gonna do this thing real quick. This is what we do on the show, all right, y'all, this is the game portion of the show, and this week's contestants is not only B.
Speaker 4:Carrington.
Speaker 1:Carrington, go up and take that bag.
Speaker 4:The champagne is a burnt.
Speaker 1:All right, b Carrington and Liv's through sign. I told y'all it doesn't matter today, forgive me. All right, so Good fine, good fine. So the game this week is called what you texting for Right. So the object of this game is I'm gonna give you a scenario and you are to respond. What you would text forwards, the four words you would text back.
Speaker 5:Okay.
Speaker 1:I'm gonna give you the scenario. All right, you ready.
Speaker 4:I'm stressed go ahead, it's easy.
Speaker 1:All right, first one For B Easy you calling off work, texting your supervisor. I'm texting her.
Speaker 5:My child couldn't go to school today. She's sick.
Speaker 1:Four words, you gotta do four words. Four words you gotta text four words.
Speaker 5:Not going to no Wait. A minute, no wait. That's more the four words, that's more the four words Not unless I use the abbreviations Nope, can't use, okay, can't use, I'm not coming.
Speaker 1:I'm not coming Today. Today, there you go, bam see, that easy, that easy, all right Liv, this is for you. Oh God, you see your girl's guy out with another girl. See you texting her.
Speaker 4:I'm trying to figure out how I feel about it, how I feel about her.
Speaker 1:It's your girl, it's one of your, it's one of your man girls. You see her guy out.
Speaker 4:I'm gonna tell you the first thing that comes to mind.
Speaker 1:Four words.
Speaker 4:Hurt. The first thing that comes to mind is four words and a bunch of dots. Bitch dot dot, dot, dot dot. Call me now.
Speaker 1:Oh damn, that's scary. That's scary, damn, that's scary, Cause I feel like man I'm about to spin through that. All right. B somebody owe you money and you want your money.
Speaker 5:I need me. I need me now.
Speaker 1:I need my shit. There you go, all right. Last one Liz, you made a mistake and sent a new pick to your supervisor.
Speaker 4:Oh, my hypothetical supervisor.
Speaker 1:Right, I'm saying your hypothetical supervisor.
Speaker 4:And I gotta send a text in four words.
Speaker 1:And cause. You made a mistake and sent that new pick.
Speaker 4:Sorry, not for you.
Speaker 1:There we go. Damn, all right y'all. That was a lot. Name of that game was what you texting for. Hey, you only gonna hear that shit on the shit's podcast. If you hear anybody else, do it stop shit out of it, cause you don't even hear it here and we'll come right back. Wrap up this interview with Liz Toussaint, please. I hope I get it right. Harrington, all right, y'all. It's the shit's podcast. Y'all. It's the shit. For all erotic needs and adult needs. Hit up Cole Pleschus, c-o-l-e. Pleschuscom. That's W-W-W-C-O-L-E. Pleschuscom. It's the shit's. All right y'all. We are now back at the shit's podcast and we've been here chilling the night man. We got B Carrington, which I gotta put this out there y'all. I just met her today. She's awesome, she's fucking awesome. Straight up Y'all. Make sure that y'all. Make sure that y'all follow her on TikTok. Let them know who to follow you up.
Speaker 5:My TikTok is B Carrington and my Instagram is B Carrington as well, so you can follow me on both of those platforms, and if you got any tea for me, let me know.
Speaker 1:And Liz. Yes, the book is right there. Y'all, y'all, y'all get that book. Not only can y'all get that book, y'all can listen to Liz's every Sunday, 9 pm to 11 pm with the ownership club on Soul Ones 6.3. She also has music out. She has a phenomenal daughter that she's managing.
Speaker 4:Yes, Ms Layla Marie.
Speaker 1:Yes, let people know how to find you.
Speaker 4:So you can find me on Instagram at L number two, saint, or you can go to mylifeislittcom and subscribe to find out when we have retreats.
Speaker 1:Hey, I'm gonna say something. I can't even say it. I'm excited, just let me know, about the next retreat, straight up. I don't wanna let the cat out the bag y'all Straight up.
Speaker 2:Oh Lord.
Speaker 1:I'm gonna leave y'all with this Make fans, not followers, followers that get you clout, but fans that get you work. Trust the process, do something that gets you out of bed in the morning. Be creative, be passionate, be true to yourself. Y'all can find me at the shitsparkhads on Instagram, tiktok, facebook. You can find me at monstonsteraw. That's S-T-A-R-A-W. Lotta motherfuckers fuck up the last name. It's all good. Well, you can find me at Apple Podcasts, spotify Anywhere you get podcasts. You can find the shitsparkhads. Also, shout out to the 312 Music Awards. Just went to their media day today and I'm gonna tell y'all something. It's gonna be off the hook. Y'all, I'm putting it out there. It's gonna be off the hook. So y'all, make sure y'all stand tall with the 312 Music.
Speaker 1:Awards to everybody affiliated with the 312 Music Awards. He's doing a lot for the city of Chicago, especially the arts and the creatives. And, man, if y'all want to get in contact with me, hit up social media or find me on the street. Well, don't find me on the street because y'all motherfuckers, weirdos, and I holler at y'all. Next time it's the shit y'all. Oh wait, wait, wait, wait. Can't say, can't leave without saying this Shout out to the one, the only, decker Durres, aka Gorilla Glue, because without him none of this shit would be possible. All this shit y'all see right here is because of Decker Durres. Everything the music is because of Decker Durres, and he won't accept flowers, but I get to manage flowers every time, every chance that I can, man, and I'm out. Y'all stay tuned. It's the shit. Yay, bye-bye.