The S.H.I.T.T.S Podcast
The S.H.I.T.T.S Podcast
Leadership, Love, and Lasting Connections
What if the next President of the United States was a black woman? That’s right, President Joe Biden has decided to drop out of the race and endorse Kamala Harris, shaking up the political landscape. Join us as we discuss the potential impacts of this decision, the current state of political affairs, and what Project 2025 could mean if Trump were to be re-elected. We also explore the often-overlooked reasons behind some people's support for Trump, focusing on the stimulus checks that became a lifeline for many during the pandemic.
We then shift gears to examine the unique strengths women bring to leadership roles, particularly the emotional intelligence that Kamala Harris could offer as President. How might her presence transform the political scene, both domestically and internationally? We critique Biden's presidency, weigh in on his age and health, and discuss the importance of civic engagement in maintaining the freedoms we enjoy. Plus, we consider how a female president might be received globally, especially in patriarchal societies.
In the latter part of our episode, relationships take center stage. We share personal stories and valuable insights on recognizing red flags in dating, moving beyond superficial attractions, and the importance of emotional connections. Discover the complexities of maintaining authenticity in relationships and the value of creating lasting memories with loved ones. From navigating different life goals to fostering self-awareness, we offer heartfelt reflections on personal growth and the essence of genuine connections. Tune in for a rich, engaging conversation that touches on the spectrum of timely and relatable topics.
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Hey, hey, hey, hey, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. We are now back At the Shits Podcast. So we the shooting the shit, starting some shit or picking up what's left off. I'm your host, my son Starada, Coolest Cat you Heard? That's Fav. Aka DJ Booty Rubber Like no other. If you don't believe me, man, just go ask your mother. And I got my beautiful co-host with me. I don't know what your name is.
Speaker 2:It's me, your girl B Carrington with the T.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, yeah, y'all are not tuned in to this podcast. Man, we appreciate the love, yes, sir. So before we go any further, I gotta get some shout-outs to the Ownership Club. So Shout-outs to the Ownership Club, soul 106.3 FM. Sundays, 9 pm to 11 pm. Y'all, make sure y'all tune in, check us out. And I want to give mad shout-outs to man, the city of Chicago for hosting or having Common come through for the free concert yesterday in the park, the Jay Prisker, whatever park it is, I don't know. I know it was a Dope Ass concert anyway. So B how your week been.
Speaker 2:It's been okay. It's been okay. Yeah, that global strike kind of set me back a day. You know, it took me from resting to having to drive an hour away and then an hour back.
Speaker 1:So yeah, I didn't realize Naperville was that far yeah it's extremely far.
Speaker 2:And there's nothing out there and I don't see how people live out there. Shit depending on who you talk to.
Speaker 1:A lot of motherfuckers are thinking Naperville be bussing. Really, depending on who you talk to, I mean, it depends on what. What's what's busting to you. You see what I'm saying. Like, some motherfuckers, they need, uh, they need a lot of clubs, a lot of bars, a lot of lounges. Some people, they may feel like man, just give me a strip mall with a walmart in it and uh, and I'm good a couple of restaurants, like I ain't seen no Target or nothing.
Speaker 2:Maybe I was just on the other side the wrong side, because the company I work for take up like a whole apartment complex length. Yeah, you know what I'm saying. Yeah, yeah. So probably the reason why it's nothing really over there because of the way the company is situated.
Speaker 1:What you prefer Walmart or Target.
Speaker 2:I'm a Walmart girl. I like to get up.
Speaker 1:Wait why the fuck is Walmart to get up?
Speaker 2:It is. You can go on Walmart and get you a sale and see somebody getting their ass kicked. It's easy. You can get you some entertainment and catch you a sale.
Speaker 1:I will say this much I think Walmart is easier to kind of get up out of there with something extra, if you get what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:Compared to Target Target. They gonna arrest you. Walmart will slick, let you get away. And they be like alright, I ain't studying that Target. Oh, you going to jail Target on. And they be like alright, I ain't studying that Target?
Speaker 1:Oh you going to jail Target on your ass Like for real, like today. My daughter wanted a bead, like a bead making kit, and I don't know, I probably need to go see a therapist because it didn't even cost that much. But I think it was just the klepto in me. It kind of felt like I want to see if I can get away with this shit. You know what I'm saying. So I rang up everything and the motherfucking B making thing was still in the cart. So I was just like fuck it. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:I have accidentally done it before.
Speaker 1:I ain't going to lie? Was it accidentally?
Speaker 2:yeah, it was actually the accident and I was like, oh man, but I'm already at the store, so I'm like I'm black so I'm not going back in trying to explain to them that, hey, I made a mistake and walked out with this, can I?
Speaker 1:go pay double for it you know, I'm like nah, I'm just gonna go with it, that's how I did it and when my daughter, when my daughter held it up, I thought she was gonna be like dad we forgot to pay for this. But she didn't. So kudos to you, baby. But yes, it seemed like it's way easier, so I know you got some tea for us.
Speaker 2:Well, not too much tea, because I just, I think the world just had the shock of their lives right now, oh, tomorrow, with Joe Biden. Yes, joe Biden dropping out of the race, and he said he's going to put everything behind Kamala, which I am going to vote for her.
Speaker 1:As you should.
Speaker 2:Yes, I am going to vote for her, contrary to everybody saying that they're not voting for a woman. A lot of people not everybody A lot of people saying they're not voting for a woman. Do y'all know what's going to happen if a woman run this country? And I'm like do you know what's going to happen if Trump run this country and they kick in Project 2025?
Speaker 1:Your black 2025, your black ass going back to the fields.
Speaker 2:So you know, and the thing is project 2025 you can actually look that shit up and it outlines everything. So you really should get in tune with that. Yeah, so understand what it is exactly. So I'm just but you know I'm not so into politics, so I don't know everything, but I do. I hate when I'm talking To niggas and I say niggas Because you know, yeah, and when you're talking To niggas and the first thing you be like so why you voting for Trump? And they'll say Because he gave us A stimulus, check the fuck. And I be like but your black ass On section 8. So when, so when Project 2025 came in, your black ass ain't getting no more Section 8. You ain't getting nothing. No help, no, nothing.
Speaker 1:Well, I'm trying to remember the stimulus check that he gave us.
Speaker 2:It was, you know what you, I thought that was Obama that did that. No, they gave it to us during COVID. You know when?
Speaker 3:COVID and everybody was losing their jobs.
Speaker 2:They gave us $1,400 the first time. But you had to and I mean they kind of did and they could have let us sink, but they said he didn't want to in the first place because it was supposed to be $2,800 apiece.
Speaker 1:Really.
Speaker 2:He broke it down to $1,400. He was like I'm glad people don't need all that. Damn he was like I'm black, people don't need all that. Damn man, that 28 up, yeah.
Speaker 1:And then, on top of that, Instagram told me I bought me a bag. Got my 28 Bought me a bag bitch.
Speaker 2:Bitch and you know, and then On top of this you know his assassination Attempt, I'm sorry. Quote unquote, fake, so Come on now. I mean because some people think it's fake, Some people think it's real. I thought it was fake because. I felt like you're 70 some years old, Like how did you just pop up like that and just keep it going?
Speaker 1:Exactly. Like and I'm like Like is the wig made of steel? Is it a money? Come on, man. Like relax, like see what is crazy, though it's just so crazy to me what motherfuckers would fall for. You see what I'm saying. And like people try to put this shit out there and they try to talk about black people, like we're just so fucking ignorant and and we don't know what the fuck going on, but we know not to fall for bullshit. You see what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:Some of us do.
Speaker 1:Motherfuckers. We know when somebody trying to shoot your ass, we know that we saw that shit and we're like nobody trying to shoot his ass. If a motherfucker was really trying to shoot him, they would've got him they would've got them. What the fuck are you?
Speaker 2:talking about, especially if the person was supposed to be like this sharpshooter, this person that was trained in shooting and stuff like that. How did you miss Get?
Speaker 1:the fuck out of here. That's Daquan and them that's missing, like that. You know what I'm saying? This ain't the motherfuckers that have been trained and been through all these numerous fucking field tests. No, that's bullshit, but it's sensationalist, in my opinion. It's sensationalism. It gets people riled up and it gets the dummies to be even dumber. You know what I'm saying. So they can do dumber shit and be like, oh, I'm definitely voting for him now because they try to take him out. They hired somebody to. You know what I'm saying?
Speaker 2:Whatever, and then he popped up with the holding up the fist Get the fuck out of here hey y'all. I don't know what that man on, but he, I don't really mess with him like that, but y'all got it. Man, he is the funny, he one of the funniest people, because not you got shot and you get up doing this, right, what?
Speaker 1:Get the fuck out of here and everybody and I guarantee you, the dumb motherfuckers ate that shit up.
Speaker 3:You know what I'm saying?
Speaker 1:look at him he's still pumping his fist. Ah, black power, not black power, trump power, whatever the fuck. That's crazy. Man like motherfuckers is dumb and it's just so fucked. First of all, you cannot deny, you just can't ignore the fact that you have a felon that's running for president.
Speaker 2:Exactly.
Speaker 1:You know what I'm saying, like that part right there.
Speaker 2:But then you have it where felons can't even vote Right.
Speaker 1:So I look at it like this if you talking about making it, if you talking about where you have a felon that's running for office, I feel like, from this point on, you need to take that question off every application, take that shit off every application, because obviously the shit does not fucking matter, no more.
Speaker 2:You know what I'm saying? Facts, it doesn't fucking matter.
Speaker 1:Hey yo, we got to take a break real quick. Hey man, shout out to all the motherfuckers out there. Man that read that question. It was like they knew there was a felon, but they still checked. No, and when they did the interview your ass to get hired.
Speaker 1:Anyway, this is just podcast, man. It's the shit For all erotic needs and fantasy needs. Please contact Cold Pleasures. That's C-O-L-Plecom. Yeah, yeah, yeah, we are now back at the podcast. We are shooting the shit and uh, we just sitting here talking about, uh, politics, uh, fake ass, assassinations, uh, and uh shit. What it's gonna look like if you got. Uh, what would it look? What would it look like to have a black woman in office?
Speaker 2:I think that she would do great. A lot of people feel like women. Women in general are very emotional. You know I'm saying which we are, we are emotional people. But I think that she would do great because she would have a lot of male advisors and I'm not just saying it's just from a man, man, a male and female perspective. But I'm just saying, like she would have advisors, people that she speak to. You know, hey, how do you think this? Or if I am angry, I get emotional.
Speaker 1:You know, she may have somebody to, hey you know it's like bringing that shit down yeah you need to.
Speaker 2:This ain't personal.
Speaker 1:You know what?
Speaker 2:I'm saying so, you know. So I think that she would do great personally, that's what I think.
Speaker 1:Um, when I think about it, the thing that I think about the most is I feel like I haven't really seen her that much doing this presidency. You know what I'm saying. I've seen Biden way more than I've seen her, and I think about past presidencies. You know the vice president was very present.
Speaker 2:Were they. I think, so I don't even be remembering them. The only person I remember is Al Gore. Al Gore that's the only person I remember is Al Gore, who was Bill Clinton's vice president? Exactly, hold on, who was George Al Gore? Was George Bush? Who was Al Gore vice president to what? Clinton? Oh, that's the only person I remember. Wait, say that again Al Gore was Clinton's vice president. Yeah, that's the only person I remember. Who was George Bush vice president? Fuck Dick Cheney. But, who remember that Nick?
Speaker 1:A lot of people.
Speaker 2:Y'all remember him.
Speaker 1:That's the motherfucker who shot the dude. He shot the motherfucker.
Speaker 2:I'm saying y'all remember him for that, but do y'all remember anything that he said? That was profound? No, Dick Cheney was present.
Speaker 1:Dick Cheney was present. He made himself very, he made himself very I don't remember him saying none profound I mean. And Biden, to be honest with you, biden made himself seen with Obama.
Speaker 2:You know, I didn't remember Biden until he got up there.
Speaker 1:Really.
Speaker 2:I swear I never remembered Biden. When they was like Biden, it was like I was like who?
Speaker 1:I was like, maybe I just don't pay attention, but Biden made himself very, very visual during Obama's presidency, in my opinion.
Speaker 2:But they knew but I'm going to say this about Biden, and it's something that I did not they knew he was too old to run before he ran, you know what I'm saying they knew that. They knew that that man was falling asleep a long time ago. Okay, he was falling asleep a long time ago. Okay, he was falling asleep for giving people names. He was doing that prior to that.
Speaker 1:Right right.
Speaker 2:When he was running. So y'all knew he was too old, so to say, right now he too old to run, and his health and all that. Did y'all know when Nick was falling asleep.
Speaker 1:I mean shit. I mean mean to me, I feel like all that shit is by design anyway, and and it's just shit that they kind of let us in on. You know what I'm saying, like. So I I definitely feel like it's stuff that people should pay attention to, and people should uh use their voice and speak up. However, I do think, at the end of the day, all it should is a smokescreen. That's just my personal opinion, though, but I do hope Kamala Harris win over Trump, definitely.
Speaker 2:I don't know. And on top of that I'm not going to lie I am glad America might have. We might have our problems in America, but I promise you I wouldn't want to be from nowhere, but I wouldn't want to live nowhere.
Speaker 1:But here, really, there ain't no place else in the world you want to live outside of America.
Speaker 2:No, they cause a lot of them. They don't have what we have choices, we can make our choices, our own choices, right, you know, I'm saying like regardless of what yeah, for now regardless of what people feel.
Speaker 2:If I want to get out and go to the store, I can go outside and go to the store right you know I'm saying I don't you know, whereas a president can turn around and say the whole country is on curfew just because he wanted to be on curfew I mean, they kind of just did that shit with the pandemic, though. But that's the pandemic. Because of that I'm talking about. Just you wake up one day and you know what I don't want nobody on the street at the nine.
Speaker 1:Just because I'm pissed.
Speaker 2:Just because I'm pissed.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:Oh, they didn't speak to me. Everybody back in the house.
Speaker 1:Oh my God, we're overpopulated no more than two kids to a household. Oh yeah, yeah, shit pulling jack nigga you you know.
Speaker 2:So it's like I ain't gonna lie like women. Oh, you can't do anything. You know because in some countries women can't even. They have no opinion. They have no opinion, you can't. They can't even go into a restaurant. If it's men in the restaurant, you got to take your husband with you. If you got one, or a man got to go with you, well, otherwise you can't go in there you know what that makes me think about.
Speaker 1:If kamala harris do win, how how will she be received? And some of these global, uh, these global events I was thinking that too, you know what I'm saying, like I didn't look at you like, uh, you know, because you don't know what you're talking about in some countries where men don't think women are intelligent at all, like they don't listen to you.
Speaker 1:They don't care what you gotta say right you don't count, but you know that's funny, uh, because lately I've been having these conversations about men and women, right? So, and I think about it because, you know, I don't know if I'm having these conversations because my situation changed. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3:I mean I am having fuck that shit.
Speaker 1:I am having conversations because my situation changed, so I'm seeing things a little bit different. You know what I'm saying. So sometimes I do think about no, not sometimes a lot. I think about the rational part of it who thinks? More rational, right, yeah who thinks women, but you just say I'm more emotional emotional versus rational.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I can be emotional, but I can also be in the. In the times of me being emotional, I can be a rational thinker as well. Does that go together? Yes, it does, because I can't, like I can, be a rational thinker as well. Does that go together? Yes?
Speaker 3:No, it don't. Yes, it does, it does.
Speaker 2:Because I can literally be upset.
Speaker 1:And make a sound decision, and make a sound decision.
Speaker 2:I swear I can. When he, when Don Do you think?
Speaker 1:most women do that.
Speaker 2:No, I don't Thank you, and I'm going to say that Because what I'm saying, when my husband wrecked his car or his truck, I swear I was mad. You know. I'm saying I was like you know, fuck this, you know I was, I was mad and I still I said okay, well, you know what, let's think this thing out, let's figure it out.
Speaker 2:now I was still pissed, I didn't want to sit next to me or nothing go over there, but let's talk about what we're gonna do, right you know, and so it was like in that moment I still had to make a rational decision, no matter if I'm mad I don't want you talking to me but we still got to figure it out. That's true because there's still going to be the same issue in the morning, no matter if I'm mad or not right and I'm still mad. You know, not right, not serious, not right now, but like, even if I'm still mad, I'm still gonna make that decision that's and you know what.
Speaker 1:That's awesome and I commend you for that. I think I guess I just kind of feel like I look at certain situations and certain things that motherfuckers say and certain decisions that's made and I'd be like you thought that was a good decision. Like you thought that through you know what I'm saying Like you, you thought that was a good decision. Like you thought that through you know what I'm saying like you really thought that was the best choice, you know. And not to say that, not to say that men can't make fucked up ass decisions too y'all make a lot okay, yeah, and we do, we do.
Speaker 1:But who do you think is more emotional, though? You said women.
Speaker 2:Women are more emotional, but men I'm going to say this I be feeling like sometimes y'all don't use critical thinking.
Speaker 1:Oh.
Speaker 2:Y'all don't use y'all critical thinking skills whatsoever. You know what I'm saying. It's like y'all don't think about certain things before you eat, when it's time to do. You know right, just do stuff. Like if you gotta pay for something at the house, it's like why you just didn't go and pay it or why you just didn't do this. It's like we have to talk y'all into doing certain things.
Speaker 1:I'm like where is it responsible yeah, be responsible yeah, we're gonna take a break real quick. Yo shout out to all my dudes out there man, that putting a little bit on the light bill and a little bit it's just podcast.
Speaker 3:Man, it's the shit this comedian, comedian Marnie P checking in from the Shits Podcast.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah. We are now back at the Shits Podcast and I think we are at the portion where we are starting some shit. That's what we are on right now. So we're talking about rational thinkers, rational and emotional thinkers. Who is normally the rational thinkers and emotional thinkers? And really you just can't say it's just women. You really can't say it's just men, because it can vary. It's all about a person's characteristics and a person's mindset. I personally feel like sometimes the options that men have given women have put us in a really fucked up situation, meaning I'll explain, Okay, yeah elaborate.
Speaker 1:I'll explain it. We have been raised to feel like you got to provide everything for the woman, just your job. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3:Yes.
Speaker 1:That's what we have been taught, right. So that means that we're going to pay for the, you know, the bills, the rent, the hair, the nails, the meal. What else am I missing? That's it, you're fine that's it you're fine, you're there with all that being said, let me ask you this question what does the man get after all that?
Speaker 2:we carry your babies. Okay, okay, we carry your babies. Alright, you're supposed to be your peace.
Speaker 1:Stop right there. Let me stop you right there. So when you said we carry your babies, I am 100%. I am in 100% agreeance with you on that. Now, after that shit starts to get murky, after that shit starts to get murky, after that shit starts to get murky because you said we supposed to, y'all supposed to be our peace right, yeah okay, what else? What else do we get?
Speaker 2:we supposed to be your friend. Okay, come on next. Next, we supposed to be the chef, next.
Speaker 1:Uber Eats. Uber Eats sales have went the fuck up, so please don't tell me that. So come on next one. Chef, wait because you throwing me out Because you hearing it yourself. You out here to go. What's the next one?
Speaker 2:Chef, let me see um a shoulder for you to you know, cry on so now you just said it.
Speaker 1:You're supposed to be a shoulder for us to cry on, but then again it's like these niggas too sensitive. Well, I don't want to try to hear all that shit. Nigga, just alright. So next, what else?
Speaker 2:that's all I got for right now.
Speaker 1:So when you think about all that, when you think about all that, that's why I said that we have played a part in that. Men have definitely played a part in that, because we have been taught to be, in my opinion, I think we have been taught to feel like you're not supposed, you're really not, you're not entitled to shit. That's what we've been taught. We have been taught that you are supposed to provide this shit and hopefully you get all the shit that you just said. Now, them babies I can give you Sometimes. Sometimes women feel like I don't want no fucking kids.
Speaker 3:You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:But all the rest of that shit. That's a maybe, nigga, that's, that's a maybe, maybe. Or is it because of the people, the women that y'all choose? See a lot of a lot of men choose women solely based off looks that that is solely based off looks. They don't find out if she uh, you know, I'm saying they don't find out nothing about her, except that she got a fat ass and a pretty face that's a pretty feet okay pretty feet because men are visual right so before y'all even get to a personality, y'all done.
Speaker 2:Seen her, me, when I say me and visual, y'all are visual to the point where she could be she fine as hell dumb as fuck yeah, boring as hell, dumb as hell, but she fine though. So y'all are put up with certain shit, right, because that woman look good. That's how some not all men, but some men are very much so visual.
Speaker 2:And when I say visual, um, I have heard men say if a woman ain't got a certain style, if she's not dressed a certain like stylish, they don't want to deal with her, you know, I mean, she could be beautiful, she could have everything that they want in a woman, but the bitch can't dress. So now he don't want to be, he don't want to mess with her. Like, damn, you can't do that, you can't. They feel like they can't fix style. I'm like, yes, you can, but what you can't do is make a person be a chef. You can't make a person, you know I'm saying, be a great mother.
Speaker 2:You know I'm saying be able to, you know, help you with your businesses or be the show to cry on, or you can't. You can't fix that. You fix style. You can fix a person who may be fat and you're like, oh, she's beautiful, she's just a little chunky. You can fix that. You can say baby, let's go to the gym.
Speaker 1:Or keep it the way it is.
Speaker 2:Bbws ain't bad at all, you can keep it the way it is, but I'm just saying like they look at men are very shallow.
Speaker 1:Some men yeah men are very shallow.
Speaker 2:Some men, yeah, some men are very shallow. Some men, yeah, yeah, yeah, very good point. That's how y'all end up with and I that's how most men end up with a bitter baby mama, oh because, they have chosen someone based off of looks and they just so happened to get that person pregnant and she had all the red flags. She was a walking red flag, but you still walk red flags. What's the red?
Speaker 1:flags. That, you, that, you that you would say, as a woman what's the red flags?
Speaker 2:okay, you missed her phone call. Oh, you didn't text her right back. She didn't call you. A bunch of bitches and hoes and cuss you out and talk crazy to you, but you still stay with her. You didn't care about their respect. You thought it was cute at the time.
Speaker 1:Oh, she like me, she like y'all on my dick.
Speaker 2:She had a baby with her. She had the police at your door talking about some. I want my baby at their house.
Speaker 1:Oh, or she had a baby with her.
Speaker 2:She had the police At your door Talking about I want my baby Out the house, oh, or she put or she put the Snickers In your gas tank, yeah, or she bust out your windows and some people.
Speaker 1:Or she bust or she Slash three tires.
Speaker 2:Right For the insurance.
Speaker 1:Right yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, insurance ain't Gonna pay for them, damn. So at the end of the day, like we tell men, tell women to choose better, because people be talking women, be talking about dead, be daddies and stuff like that, we tell y'all y'all should have chosen better choose better.
Speaker 1:You know, like that's a good point. I mean, like I kind of feel like certain things, certain things you can see from the jump.
Speaker 1:You know I'm saying um with people and it's like like when you start to have a conversation with a motherfucker and you be like damn like you say your conversation boring as fuck, like you don't even know how to have a conversation, like how long we gonna keep this shit going exactly, you see what I'm saying. Or like you know it's not fun hanging out with you, you know what I'm saying. Like it's cool to fuck you, you know what I'm saying. But after that it's like alright, see you tomorrow, whatever. You know what I'm saying. Like it's cool to fuck you, you know what I'm saying. But after that it's like all right, it's all right, see you tomorrow, whatever.
Speaker 1:You know what I'm saying, I'll get your call. But I feel like it's a big difference and maybe I just feel this way. You know, getting older it's a big difference. And when you can have somebody to occupy your time and your space, and have somebody to occupy your time and your space and you like it and it seems like the time is not dragging, you know I'm saying like you look up, it's two, it was two o'clock in the morning and it's like man, we've been kicking it this long, I didn't realize that you know.
Speaker 1:I'm saying yeah so compared to you know, after you didn't fuck them off, and it's like oh shit it's 10, 30, 10, 36. I gotta get up.
Speaker 2:I gotta get up early at 1 pm tomorrow. You know what I'm saying so I'll let you.
Speaker 1:I mean yeah, I think I think that's, that's that's definite something, that's definitely something that I think men don't always think about. You know what? I'm saying because we just be like yeah, we are visual, you know, we see a fat ass. That shit would. That shit would turn your head, I mean. But for some women too, I've seen women. I've seen some women be like damn, she got nice ass yes, but like okay.
Speaker 2:So it's a show called uh, pop the balloon. Y'all probably have heard of it. If not, you should look it up. When you see men and women that's on there looking for love or whatever they're doing and they're popping the balloon of the person that they don't, you know, that they don't find attractive or whatever, when you hear some of the reasoning behind it, you realize that, oh my god, these, this is how people think and this is why a lot of people are, and I'm not. I don't want to think single is a bad thing, but that's why a lot of people are single, or why they choose horrible mates. Because you have people on there popping a balloon.
Speaker 2:The young lady came out and she said I like to garden. She was a engineer, you know, and she read books. The moment that she says she likes to read and she likes to stay at home, men started popping their balloon. They didn't want them. They didn't want them the fuck, they said. She seemed boring, she had no kids. She was 26 years old, engineer. She said she loved guys. She wanted a man of God. She didn't even have a type.
Speaker 1:Wow.
Speaker 2:She didn't even care if you were short or not. Just be a good guy.
Speaker 1:And they was popping the balloon.
Speaker 3:Yes.
Speaker 1:Now they gonna go for the Megan Thee Stallion type. That's gonna run your pockets and you can't even go to Applebee's with the motherfucker. You gotta go to a five-star joint, motherfucker. I like Applebee's, I like Chili's, I like.
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Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, we're not back, it's just podcast, with your host, monsta Rop, and the fabulous Pete Carrington Always laying shit down, telling y'all how it is. And we're in this motherfucking man, so okay. So we talked about the red flags in a relationship and what people should look for. Um, like, I want to talk about you know, the whole, the whole idea and concept of being connected, because I think that's what people miss. You see what I'm saying. Um, like, so we talk about what people look for in somebody and you know people like I've seen women write down, uh, their requirements, that that they may as well to have, and I've been reading this shit.
Speaker 1:I'll be like you ain't got none of that shit. You have none of it. You know I'm saying one through one through eight, you have none of it. But you can't focus somebody unless they got that. So it'd be like idiotic to me anyway. But people make these lists about what a person is supposed to have in order for them to be with them, and then I'll be sitting there thinking about it, like, do you think a person having all that stuff is gonna make you feel connected to them? You get what I'm saying, because the thing about it is sometimes you just like oh, sometimes I feel like you really can't tell. You really can't tell if you're going to feel that way about a person. It comes from you hanging out you know what I'm saying. It comes from you engaging in conversation with a motherfucker, like I don't just think that you know. When somebody pop up and they look good, you be like oh, I'm connected to this motherfucker oh, that's lust right there, that is that's lust.
Speaker 1:Right there, that is that's called lust, you know. So, once that nut is bust, you know, sometimes shit, a lot of times shit really change.
Speaker 3:Right.
Speaker 1:But yeah, I was just thinking about that and like the whole concept of people being connected, and then I thought about it even further. So just say, like with Light Company, the Light Company will send you a notice that says your shit about to get disconnected, right. So I'm sitting there thinking like what if there was some way a motherfucker can get a notice that their connection with that person was possibly about to end?
Speaker 2:You got one. It's called a text message.
Speaker 1:No.
Speaker 2:Okay, explain.
Speaker 1:Elaborate. Elaborate.
Speaker 2:It's a simple text. Hey, you know, I loved our date, I loved going out with you and everything. It's just we just don't have a connection. You know, and I don't want to hold up any more of your time because I want you to find who you're looking for so you saying this after a date or after after some time? It could be after a day or after some time so okay.
Speaker 1:So what about? Is there any okay? So let's say, like after some time, like some years, like is there some like the signs that somebody could send and say, hey, I feel like, I feel like we losing this you know, yes, I think that couples, I feel like when someone has been with somebody for a long time, um, you have times where you actually don't like that person.
Speaker 2:People don't want to admit it. You don't like mate. If you've been with somebody 10 years, one of those years you couldn't stand their ass. A whole year Shit. Maybe you know what I'm saying. You couldn't stand them. You know what.
Speaker 2:I mean, but y'all managed to make it work. And when I say that y'all end up maybe talking and saying what the issue was and stuff like that, because I've had my own, you know, with my husband, I've had, we've had that discussion, you know, I'm saying why I was like man, you so boring now you know, I mean like we didn't have that talk so it's so.
Speaker 1:It's stuff like okay, we're losing that connection. Yeah, we're losing that connection. How can we get it back?
Speaker 2:yeah, because I think you're boring, but see, that's how we talk to each other, though me and him. Him and I, we talk to each other like that, right, so I don't get offended. He doesn't get it offended either. You know, um, I would tell him like I want to go somewhere. You know I'm saying like I don't care, we ain't got to pay for it, but I want to go somewhere I want to be out, yeah, like all you do is work, work, work, work, work and shit.
Speaker 2:Your ass gonna be sleeping at that motherfucker, you know what I'm saying. And he's like okay, well, cool, want to go out this weekend, you know so that's it, he's like I'm sorry I made you feel that way and uh yeah let's go out, it's fine so it's.
Speaker 1:So. What I'm hearing is it's that it's that whole communication piece that can help you can get an indicator of yeah, we kind of losing that connection.
Speaker 2:Yeah and then figure out what the connection is that you're losing, like it's several things you know. I'm saying, maybe are you not attracted to them anymore.
Speaker 3:Um have they let?
Speaker 2:they self go. You know, um, are y'all not going out enough? Is it just Because some people have kids, multiple children, and their lives starts to be surrounded Around the kids? Don't get me wrong. I love my daughter. I love her to death. But, baby, please, we ain't finna, we not doing that. I want to have day and night and stuff like that, because we still have to Nurture our relationship at the same time because if we don't, then it's not going to be a good dynamic for the household right you know, we just going to just be going through the motions, like, okay, you go to work, I go to work, we pick up the babies, right, you drop her off, you know it.
Speaker 2:You cook, I cook, you know whatever. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1:We eat dinner.
Speaker 2:It's just a routine. Nobody wants to just Go through that constant. I see it with a lot of people who end up having children.
Speaker 3:Right.
Speaker 2:They kind of lose Themselves. They don't want to go Out of town Without the kids. They don't want to go Without the kids. Everything is without the kids, right, they, everything is without the kids. They scared. Without the kids, it's like damn, y'all gonna be with the kids forever. Y'all don't do nothing. It doesn't make you a bad parent because you feel like I want to go to Miami and live it up with my husband.
Speaker 1:Right, right, right. That's what I want to do. I'm supposed to be able to do that.
Speaker 2:I'm supposed to be able to do that. We take care of y'all all year that makes sense.
Speaker 1:I mean, like those, those cup, those couple, those couple vacations, uh, they should be the best vacations, Cause you get the opportunity to be adults and do adult shit. You see what I'm saying, Like you know, like there's a, there's a certain um, there's a certain beauty and being able to be with that other adult and hang out late and just do adult shit you know, whether it's recorded or not straight up, you know what I'm saying like and have fun, because a lot of couples don't have fun.
Speaker 2:Me and my husband, we laugh all the time, right, we got jokes, we tell jokes, he talk about me and the fact that I you know he say stuff about me, I say stuff about him, like we have plenty of jokes like that. I don't want to say we're attached to the hip with each other, but he is literally my best friend so I gossip with him.
Speaker 1:Right. So you know, it's interesting that you say that, because I hear I hear women say that more than I hear men say that. I've rarely heard a man say, yeah, you know, my girl's my best friend. I think it's great, like, don't get me wrong, no, don't get me wrong. I think it's great. I think it's great when it's said but me and my boy, tron, talk about this all the time. It's like I don't know if my girl could be my best friend, because I don't know if I can say everything too. I don't know that, but I will say this much I do feel like in today's society, relationships are evolving and relationships are fucking changing, and I'll say it this way first of all, you have relationships where threesomes are not taboo no more, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1:And it's like them. Motherfuckers are sometimes suggested by more. You know what I'm saying. And it's like them, motherfuckers are sometimes suggested by the woman. You know what I'm saying. So I think that part is like that mindset is kind of changing, like that's not you have. It's like yeah, we do it together. You see what I'm saying. I also think that you know like the lifestyles are kind of becoming a little bit more, uh, acceptable like you have, uh, like the swingers, and you know, I'm saying people that they they feel like I do everything. Well, not, we do everything together. So I think, in situations like that, I think it may be possible to be like, yeah, this is my best friend because we do everything together you can have a best like.
Speaker 2:I'm, just not a sensitive person right so when Don say something to me or he says something, we've always been like that from the beginning of our relationship, like we say I say anything, you know, I'm saying that's. I've always been that type that I'm going to say anything, okay, um, he didn't know that. I was like that when I first met him, until I actually said anything and he was like Whoa, wait, wait, I didn't know we could talk to each other like that.
Speaker 2:You know what I'm saying and so then it made him comfortable with you know saying certain things around me, and then now we just say whatever to each other. I'm trying to get to the point where we kind of we think alike. When I say we think alike, I could be thinking something and he'll bust out and say it.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:And we'll both start laughing.
Speaker 1:So let me ask this question, though what? What happens when, oh, I'll take a break and man know what? What happens when, oh, I'll take a break and man shout out to uh all the couples out there man is, you know, doing adult shit and uh getting arrested for uh public intoxication and uh fucking in the back seat of the wendy's?
Speaker 3:yes, it's just podcast. Where did it just?
Speaker 1:mean it's yeah, it's just podcast. What up, ladies and gentlemen? It's the american dream, the american nightmare, the heartbreaker, young barker. And when I come to chic I check in, I get on the radio with the Shits Podcast. One more time. Man Give a big shout out to the Shits Podcast, young Baca Productions. Man Holler us, we out here. Yeah, we're not back at the Shits Podcast. We shooting the shit, starting some shit or picking up what shit left off.
Speaker 2:So now we're not gonna be able to yeah, I enjoy all moments like when you I was telling him, like telling down when, when I was younger, when we young, we don't think about death as much. Right, because we're young, we don't understand it.
Speaker 1:You know, I'm saying so you just don't want to think about it well, you just want.
Speaker 2:But when we seven, eight, it's kind of like, okay, so cousin passed away, who the hell is that you know? I'm saying like you don't know them, like that you know. I mean, you know them, but you don't know them. But as you start getting older in our age group, people start passing yeah people gone, people gone, and then your parents start leaving, your grandparents start leaving, so I started thinking about the moments that I could enjoy more.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's what you're saying because now they ain't here and I can't go back to those moments. So with him going to the gas station, with him, that's a moment, because guess what if he, once he's gone, I'm not going to be able to when I go past that gas station. Guess what?
Speaker 1:I'm only had memories, that's it, damn, but you know what? But that that's. That's very interesting that you said, because it really makes me think about the importance of creating memories, and I think that sometimes people take that for granted because they get so caught up in making the money or they get so caught up in the status that they don't understand the whole concept of making the memories not just with your significant other, but making the memories with the children, the kids, your friends all that like actually living.
Speaker 1:You know I'm saying so and it's like it's it's like stacking up those core memories. Yes, you know, like, and it's to me it's kind of feel like the more positive core memories you have, the the the happier, happier you are. Yes, you know. So I think that I think that shit is very important. But I think that goes back to the whole concept of connections.
Speaker 2:And that's why I said, because I'm like that's my best friend. So when we in the car we riding, and he got me listening to a new song or something, I'm thinking like one day, damn he ain't going to have it. He ain't going to have it, me or damn he ain't gonna have it, me or him ain't gonna have it. Whether we live to be 80 or 90, at some point we're gonna realize that back in our 30s and 40s we took this ride down 79th and we was, we was in the mix, we was high as hell.
Speaker 2:We gonna be talking about that. It's just gonna be. We, oh, we're gonna be older. You know, I mean, we just have to. I love him.
Speaker 1:You know, I mean I love him I feel like I should have music playing in the background while you're saying that.
Speaker 2:Go ahead, though yeah, I love him, even if we didn't work out right. I told him that we are still, still always be friends, because I actually love I actually yeah. I'm in love with him, but I know that if it's not working out, I do have to. I would have to let him go to find his happiness, but you're stealing my dog that part, that part.
Speaker 1:If it's not working out, I not. I can't be mad at you, I gotta let you. I gotta let you go to find your happiness, you know what I'm saying Because obviously, obviously, I didn't get the disconnection notice that you was sending me Exactly.
Speaker 2:You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1:I didn't get it. You know what I'm saying. I should have, or maybe you didn't get the disconnection notice that I was sending you and you didn't pick up on it. You know I'm saying because if you did, you'd have been like hey, well, let me call them and put something on it.
Speaker 2:You know, I'm saying or maybe we just grew apart, maybe it's nobody did anything wrong right maybe it's just like we've been together so long. Right, just who we were back 10 years ago.
Speaker 1:We're not those people anymore Now I will say this even with that, I kind of feel like there still should have been. I think there still were some signs there that we would not have of what we were becoming. You get what I'm saying, because I don't think it's just because it's not just overnight. You know what I'm saying. Like you said, it's over the years, it's over the years. So over the years, you know, we were going different ways.
Speaker 1:I just kind of feel like at some point, if you would have gotten the disconnection notice, you could have been like hey, why are you going that way? You could have been like hey, why you going? Why you going that way? What is it about that way? You know, I'm saying, and you would have had the opportunity to be like okay, I don't want to go that way, so let me just end it right now. You know, I'm saying or actually, I don't mind going that way, so let me, I'm gonna walk with you. That's how I look at it. So when I I do feel like it is, I do feel like it is possible for people to just grow apart.
Speaker 1:However, I feel like you grow apart, when you don't get the disconnection notice. You see what I'm saying. When you don't pay attention to the disconnection notice, yeah, we starting to drift. But if you paid attention, you would notice that we starting to drift and you can ask the question well, what's going on? You see what I'm saying? Because I think that's the difference, because in a relationship, let's say like six months to a year, if you notice something's different, you're gonna be like if you really give a fuck, you're gonna be like, hey, what's up? You know what I'm saying. I don't hear from you as much. You know what I'm saying. Or, yeah, I don't hear from you, I don't hear from you, I don't see you that much. Like what's going on. Somebody could tell you well, I don't know, I got pissed at this, or I just don't, or you boring. You get what I'm saying and if you really give a fuck, you can be like all right, well, let me try to do something else, let's go out to this, let's do that.
Speaker 1:You see what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:Or it's something that's just, is a non-negotiable and some people not going to change. Like case in point. I ain't bringing up celebrities, but I am Jenny Mai and her ex-husband. When they first got together, both of them said they didn't. She said she didn't want any children. He said he didn't want any children. When they first got together, 10 years within the marriage, he started saying I think I want some kids and she don't, and she still didn't want any kids.
Speaker 2:But pause, they divorced, she gets with jesus and has a baby. So, with that being said, it's kind of like this man was asking you for kids. Right, you said you didn't want any children, but I'm gonna tell you what she did for him, though she did let him go right at that point in time she didn't want any children.
Speaker 2:He did right. And so she said you know I hate for us to part ways, but this is something that I know we would have to do because just in the last I think he said, she said that last year he had been saying that he wanted kids and she knew she didn't want none. She didn't want none. So it wasn't even her coming back and saying, well, maybe we can think about it. She specifically said it's okay, you can go. I don't, you can go.
Speaker 1:And it was non-negotiable. Then she got with Jeezy, had a baby, then he divorced her.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 1:That's the universe doing, what the universe do, okay.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but to that point. Her ex-husband has a beautiful family. He got remarried, yeah, has two beautiful children.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:You know and is doing great.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:And that's what he wanted. He wanted that family, so she knew that. And that's what he wanted. He wanted that family, so she knew that and she got what she wanted regardless that he sent her this this, this disconnection notice, or communicated that. Well, she said at that time I didn't want any children, so I'm gonna let him go. I'm not gonna drag this on for three or four more years having him on the back burner saying maybe, maybe, right, we'll try tomorrow, okay, maybe. And then years pass and you still ain't got.
Speaker 2:You know you know she let him go when she found out that he wanted some kids. Yeah, let him go right there, and I I applauded her for that, because she let him go be happy I feel you well, even though you had a baby you got divorced. You probably would have, if you would have had one with your ex-husband you would probably still be together, but that ain't what you wanted but at least he's happy though.
Speaker 1:There it is. Hey, listen, listen, I have learned, I have learned. And how long has it been within a four, four to five months span? Hey, man, sometimes you just gotta give a motherfucker what they want. That's it, that's all. That is all you can do. Give a motherfucker what they want. That's it. That's all. That is all you can do. Give a motherfucker what they want. This is what you want. Okay, okay, you got it. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:Life went oh.
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Speaker 1:We are not begging to shoot this podcast. We're shooting the shit, starting some shit, picking up what shit left off. We are picking up what she left off, what you about to say. B.
Speaker 2:I was gonna say, when you was saying you gotta give people what they want, I was gonna say, like some women, you know, and men but I'm just speaking for women, cause I'm a woman Sometimes women think that the grass Growing on the other side or they gonna get, you know, something different From the what, from a different man Than the man that they have. You know what I mean? Because the man that they met, you know he seems like a great guy and this, this, and that You've only been talking to him For maybe Three or four months and he's checking off All the boxes, he's doing everything that your ex did not do. So you say Right.
Speaker 2:But then, when you get with him, he start doing the same thing that your ex did, so sometimes the grass ain't greener On the other side. You just need to Water your own grass.
Speaker 2:You know what I'm saying. Water your grass, you know. Fix your garden up. You know what I mean. And not try to go find it In someone else Because I see it so many, so much you know, like, oh, you don't have. And not try to go find it in someone else because I see it so much, you know, like, oh, you don't have that man, he ain't got a good job right now. He don't have this and that, but he's in college, you know, he's finishing his master's or something or whatever. He finished his bachelor's. That woman to leave that man alone and say, hey, no, he ain't got enough for me, I need somebody to get it right now. Okay, she, nah, he ain't got enough for me, I need somebody that got it right now she get with that man that got it right now.
Speaker 2:He got three other ones. He dogging her, but the man that all you had to do was wait just a little longer, be patient, and he was gonna give you the world. He was good to you and everything, but you decided that you want to go over there to somebody else cause you wanted it right now. Right now. You didn't want to wait.
Speaker 1:Welcome to the Shark Tank. God damn it. That's my boy, dave saying it. He called it the Shark Tank. My nigga Ne-Yo said he was like don't. He said for dudes. The advice he would give dudes is don't forget who you are.
Speaker 1:I say that too, Don't forget, like don't lose sight of who you are. He said he was like when you, when you lose sight of who you are, she will too, real talk. You know what I'm saying? You're going to find yourself in a whole different situation. Um man, hey y'all. I gotta say it's always a pleasure, uh, conversing with b, because you got so much insight. I think you are a very, very, very intelligent person and it's like you keep shit 100. Um yo, uh, any shots out before we get up out of here?
Speaker 2:no, just just follow me on all my socials. Be Carrington on TikTok and be Carrington on Instagram.
Speaker 1:For sure. I'm going to leave y'all with this. I don't know what need to hear this, but hey, don't forget about you. Real shit. As soon as you forget about you, your ass lost. That applies to men and women. Don't forget about you, real shit. Uh, as soon as you forget about you, your ass lost. That applies to men and women. Don't forget about you. Don't forget about what makes you happy. Don't forget about what gets you out of bed in the morning. Don't forget about the shit that pisses you off.
Speaker 1:You know I'm saying you don't always have to slap shit out somebody over it, but don't forget about it. Be aware of it. Be aware of yourself. Be in tune with yourself, because when you're not in tune with yourself, somebody can come along and make you think you are whatever they want you to be. You see what I'm saying. So realize who the fuck you are. And if you are that person, if you're a person that's out there looking for somebody else, it's gonna be hard for you to find somebody. But you don't know who the fuck you are, you know. So if you a nerd, you steady, trying to fuck with the thugs, that shit ain't gonna pan out. If you a thug and you trying to steady fuck with the nerds that shit ain't gonna pan out cause they read too much for your stupid ass. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1:But anyway, y'all can find me on Instagram at Monson Staraw, that's S-T-A-R-A-W or the Shits Podcast, that's the S-H-I T-T-S Podcast, also TikTok. Also Facebook, man, y'all make sure y'all check out the podcast on Spotify, apple Podcast, anywhere you get your podcast at. Y'all, make sure y'all check it out and, man, we will be back. I want to leave it out with this. Make fans, not followers. Followers will get you clout, fans will get you work. Respect the process, trust the process, appreciate the process, because it's making you into who you are. Be patient, be passionate, be purposeful and, man, we will holler at y'all later. It's been one shout-out to Decker Durst for everything he do for the podcast and for the city of Chicago for the beats. Y'all, make sure y'all check him out and we are out of here. It is the Shoots Podcast, the Shoots Peace.